Violence against any gender is very damaging and
dangerous to the people who experienced it, regardless of their gender. All of
us think that domestic violence and abuse is just against women, but the truth
is men experienced it too. Every kind of abuse matters for victims and men also
need to be helped.
Men’s Experience of Partner Violence
Domestic violence and abuse against men is not much
common and people don’t know much about it. This is very hard for males because
they want to express it because of some reasons.
- We
are not used to think men as victims
As we know, cases of domestic abuse against males are
very male, especially when the abuser is a woman. Due to lack of awareness
about such cases, most of the male are not understand properly that from what
they are going through.
- Men
are socialized not to see themselves as victims
Men are always had been taught that they are very
tough and they can’t express their emotions. People thinks man who need help
and support from others to solve his issues is very weak. So, as result when a
man faced domestic violence or any problem he can’t ask anyone for help because
he thinks it’s not a man thing.
- Men
may feel ashamed being victims
Mostly men, who are victims of abuse, thought that it
is their fault. They don’t give enough attention and care to their partners and
they still failed after so many tries to put their all in a relationship. So
men feel ashamed to accept the fact that they are suffering from abuse.
Why Male Victims Don’t Leave?
It is not easy for anyone to leave an abusive
relationship immediately. As for men, there are also many reasons; because of
he can’t leave easily.
- He is not sure about the Abuse
- He thought that it is his fault
- He felt embarrassing to accept it
- He has fear of financial support after leaving
- He has some positive thinking that things may change
- He has some fear of losing his children
What Does Abuse of Men Look Like
The forms of abuse male are facing are mostly same as
women victims faced. Still there are some types of abuse which are specially targeted to men by their partners.
- Property
destruction
Abuser started to destroy the objects and many things
of the house. The abuser also sells out the things which are important for the
victim.
- Sexual Abuse
Men also suffered from sexual abuse. The abuser
pressurized the victim to have sex in a way which is not comfortable for the
victim. Abuser also criticizes the victims and complaining about the
performance of the victim during sex. Most of the time female abuser doesn’t
allow their partners to have sex with them as a punishment.
- Intimidation
The abuser started to threaten the victim to kill
them. They also create some fear in them about their suicide and threaten them
they may hurt or kill the children of victim. The abuser may also start to
disrespect the victim in front of his family and friends.
- Harassment
After separation the abuser started to harass her
ex-partner. Abuser started to go at the workplace of victim without any reason.
Show up and parked the car outside of his house. Even victims request the
abuser to stop, the abuser still continuously called and texted the victim and
his family or friends.
