Men who use to abuse their family are not have some specific profile. The
abusers can belong to any culture, they are of any religion or their income
also does not matter.
They Are Ordinary People
Most of us think that the abusers can easily be identified because of
their behavior. We assumed that their behavior is very harsh towards everyone.
They
are not the monsters like we assumed. They are normal people who behave well
with others and can easily adjust in our social circle. It is very important to
understand the behavior of an abuser as they behave in a very good and
attractive way. We should not assume that the abusers are physically or
psychologically unwell.
They Can Be Likable
It is not easy to understand how women can be easily in a relationship
with someone who is abusive. There are some reasons behind this;
- usually Abusive men are extra caring and much attractive
- when they are in the beginning of relationship they show some extra attention
- women in starting can recognize the verbal and emotional abuse
For the other people, abusive person is normal, as he may have family and
friends, so people think he is a normal person. So, when woman discloses the
abuse about that kind of person, people not believe the woman easily.
Men Who Abuse Also
Don’t Abuse
We usually think that man can’t be abusive as he treats his wife in a
very lovely way and very good relations with his friends and colleagues. Maybe
we like someone very much but at a same time he can be very abusive to his
partner. We cannot believe this very easily.
Most of the abusers, abuse their partners because they think they have
some ownership over their wives. They think they have right to do the violence,
so they can make their partners to do the things which they want.
These kinds of men may have two different sorts of behaviors. They treat
people very nicely at their work place and show much aggressive behavior at
home. As they satisfy themselves that they are not doing anything wrong because
their behavior is good with other people.
How Abusers Groom Victims
Abusers usually mixed up their loving behavior with the abusive one. At
the start of relationship abuser show some extra love and positive interactions
but after some time they started to show their abusive actions at very low
level, which surprise the victim to some extent but not completely. In starting
days abuser show extra attention, listen to their partner very carefully, most
of the time surprised their partners by giving them gifts.
But slowly abuser
started to show his anger and abusive behavior and try to convince his partner
that these actions are also because of love as jealousy and anger is part of
love. As they have shown so much love and attention, so the victims are confused
about the abuse and cannot leave their partners easily.
