Nancy, A Victim Suffered from Emotional Abuse
This is about a story of a survivor of emotional abuse, whose name is
Nancy. Nancy suffered from Emotional Abuse throughout her 15-year married life.
She said emotional abuse is more harmful than any other type of abuse and much
damaging.
Through emotional abuse, Nancy’s partner damaged her soul; her partner
used so hurting words which caused her pain and suffering. He tried to lower
down her self-confidence and self-worth. He caused her deep pain, that’s
why she started to feel his presence un-bearing.
Blamed Nancy for His Own Action
As being abuser her partner never took the responsibilities of his
actions and always blamed Nancy. Whenever Nancy tried to stop him, he always
made excuses to justify himself about his actions. He always ended his abusive
behavior by saying that she is the reason behind his behavior and she deserved
this kind of abuse. She faced threats, shouting, insults, criticism, and
humiliation. At the end of his humiliating behavior, her partner called it as a
humor just to justify himself. He never allowed her to say anything about in
her defense and not gave any attention to her explanations.
Her Partner’s Purpose to Abuse
One of the purposes of emotional abuse of Nancy’s partner was just to be
showed himself as superior to her. He tried this also through his body
language. He always chose to walk or stand in front of her, so she could feel in-equality. He never walked beside her whenever they are outside together.
Sometimes he also says this thing verbally, that Nancy is not equal to
him. His partner never said good or nice things to her so she could not feel
something special. He always made her feel that she does not deserve any kind of
appreciation.
Lack of Communication
Nancy also faced lack of communication from his partner’s side. He was
so secretive and holds the information which was important to both of them like
their financial affairs. Mostly he made the decisions which were affecting both of them, without her consent or without her involvement in final decisions.
He also refused to answer her questions. He didn’t communicate with her,
without being abusive and never listen what she wanted to say.
Nancy Decided to Leave
Nancy finally realized that living under these conditions is not good
for health and well-being. She made many attempts to change the behavior of her
partner, but he refused them all and not gave a little attention to her
efforts. He always blamed Nancy that she
is the one who couldn’t communicate well and she is the reason just because that he is unable to show his love and affection to children and Nancy.
Finally Nancy admitted she could never end this cycle of her partner’s
abusive behavior and never able to end the pain through which she and her
children were suffering. So she decided to implement her options to set her and children free.
