Dowry Abuse

A Fatal Social Evil in Asia

Dowry abuse is the most dangerous thing, which affects the lives of women and girls. The relation of husband and wife is such a pure relation and good family unit can result into a better upbringing of the individuals. But as a society we just ruined this beautiful relation. Now the value of the marriage is measured by the value of the dowry. Now the important thing about the marriage is how much money has been spent by the family of bride.

Daughters as Burden

Due to the pressure of the society and demand of dowry by in-laws forced parents to consider their daughters as burden.  The father of daughter must give so much to her daughter as dowry on her wedding. The list of items which is very long has been handed to the family of the bride by the groom family, which they want as dowry. 

Unfortunately, the most educated sector of our society is also the victim of this abuse. The groom’s family just has the responsibility of one event, but the family of groom has responsible for so many things. They must take so many loans from others just to meet these demands by the society and family of groom. These all things made parents think that their daughters are burden for them, so most of the people in our society even educated, become sad on the birth of a daughter.

 Groom’s Side Not Always Cause Issue

There are few families who of groom’s who are not demanding the dowry. Well, the problem is not always the groom’s family. In most of the cases the girls who are going to be bride, demand so many things from their family. The girls have their own list which they want to take with them, like the furniture of their room should be according to theme, the electronic items and so many clothes. They also want to organize their events in the most expensive banquets.

There are some cases in which parents of the bride also want to give so many things to their daughter as dowry. They just want to show their status in their society and the inner family rivalries also forced them to do so. These things may be easy for elite class but it causes huge burden on middle and lower class.

Who Is to Be Blamed?

Well, every one of us should be blamed because as society we set a trend like this and forced the parents to give so much their daughters as dowry. We should get enough education to understand that the amount of dowry does not represent our status in the society.  

Families spend so much on the weddings. They should spend this money to educate their children, so they can understand this phenomenon. The parents must give their daughters so much education, so they don’t need dowry to feel secure, they can stand on their own on the base of their education.